Brown n' Out: Have You Forgiven Him?

Recently, I read an article written by an extremely passionate blogger about Chris Brown and how upset he was that society has seemingly forgiven him for what he did to ex-girlfriend Rihanna.

From the jump, the tone was as if Chris Brown had physically assaulted this guy the night before. Truth be told, the night before, Chris Brown performed at the Grammy's; which ultimately ignited this writers fuse.

In short, to that estranged writer and anybody else who has not moved on and simply cannot forgive Chris Brown for his actions - GET OVER IT!

Before anybody jumps on my case, let me first and foremost say, I do not condone what he did and furthermore, I definitely am not advocating to anyone that hitting women is okay. Now that I've gotten the "pleasantries" out of the way, I will say that a woman who crosses the line should not be solvent from a man's reaction at that particular moment in time.

Hold up...Relax...Let me explain.

I do think a man should be prudent in his actions when in the heat of the moment (rage/anger); however, for a woman to think she is absolved from any type of retaliation is absurd. By the way and for the record, I was raised predominantly by my mother and I will tell each of you that I've got great respect for women. To date, I've never hit a woman and unless provoked "enough" I likely never will.

#ProvokedEnough

I will be the first to tell you, I've seen some women who can straight up beat the living day lights out of a man. So, generally speaking, yes a man is stronger than women. Despite this fact though, it does not mean we men cannot be provoked so much so that a woman's height and weight become non factors.

Pain is pain right?

Role play for a moment for me. Picture yourself driving your girl to dinner, the two of you get into an argument and she scratches your face, grabs your penis and begins to inflict pain. Your first reaction is going to be to do your very best not to crash right? Right. Now, I guess some men can walk away - mind you, in pain - but nonetheless, some men have the discipline and strength to walk away. What about the man that cannot because he is hurting physically and emotionally by what just happened? Does he not have the right to defend himself? Does he not have the "right" to retaliate to an extent? I'm just playing devils advocate here, because as it stands, NOBODY was in the car with Chris Brown and Rihanna. NOBODY is with them during their most intimate moments (not even you TMZ) at home or wherever. We do not truly know what the two of them have been dealing with, which obviously reached a boiling point that horrible night. All we know is what the photos show and immediately, everybody turns on Chris Brown as if Rihanna was a helpless victim. As if she did not play a role. As if she did not't instigate. Once again, NOBODY was there but the two of them; therefore, I think it would be in our best interest if we exercised our brains and tried to understand that there are in fact two sides to every story.

Was Chris Brown wrong for taking it to the extreme that he did? Of course he was wrong. I just do not think the kid deserves to be chastised still after he paid his debt to society in many ways already. This incident hurt his pocket book, his reputation and forever scarred his life as if it were a scarlet letter. Despite these facts, some just cannot let it go. Apparently, he is not worthy of making a living and apparently each of these individual's who commented on this guys blog have never done anything they regretted. Just as passionate as the blogger was about his point, I feel strongly that Chris Brown deserved and today deserves a second chance. I will say that I've done enough research and I do know Chris Brown has a temper, but damn, so does my fiance and odds are many of you who are reading this do too. In the end, it's how far we are and are not willing to take it that is the difference between catching a case and simply having a bad fight with our loved ones. You know, we do have a justice system for a reason and it is far from perfect, but damn it, it's all we've got. Until anarchy and taking things into our own hands becomes legal, we have no choice but to trust in that justice system. When people like Chris Brown pay their debts to society, depending on their crime, we should be open to forgiving - but by no means am I asking anybody to forget.

#MurderersRapistsRaiderFansAreNotForgiven

Obviously, if Chris Brown does this again to somebody else, then in that instance I will not defend him in any form or fashion. I haven't even touched on Michael Vick, but he's a perfect example and what he did was beyond extreme; yet, he has been widely accepted by the world no less.

In conclusion, I do not think that if a woman goes off on us, it warrants a balled up fist to the jaw. All I wanted to express is that we do not truly know what Rhianna possibly said or did to provoke Chris Brown. She is a victim, but she is not an innocent victim. No way - No how.

Also, I just wanted to say to all the women out there who may come across this article or to the men who feel much like the dude who blogged about Chris Brown and how the Grammy's should have never let him perform - the threshold is definitely greater for a man and woman, but make no mistake, there is a threshold. The day's a woman can do what she wants to a man, because she feels he will not touch her are long gone. Women, if you don't want to get knocked out, learn your man, look out for the signs - heed them and furthermore, know there in fact is a threshold. So, when the going gets tough - get going - period. DO NOT put yourself in a position to find out that you are NOT one of the X-men and that you bleed just like the rest of us.

That is all I'm saying and that is all I would say to that blogger. Grow up Peter Pan, this is not Never-Never Land. On top of that, it's like the old adage says...

"To err is human, but to forgive, now that is devine."

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